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Teenage Suicides in Pakistan:



Teenage suicide rate is increasing day by day in our society. We need to analyze some of the major causes of these pathetic events. Few days back I heard one of the most terrific news, A 16 years old boy Navroz Hamidi killed his classmate Fatima Bashir, and then shot himself to death. They did so because their parents rejected their ‘Love Relationship’. Yes, two of the 10th standard students who don’t even know the correct spelling of SUICIDE believed that they’re in love. They left the letters which states that, they’re attempting this suicide because the parents are not happy with their relationship and are not letting them to marry each other because of difference of caste. This news has made me extremely disappointed and devastated, this is completely the act of illiteracy. However more letters have been discovered from boy’s schoolbag that indicates that they have been planning this for long and their parents were completely unaware of this.

There are several question that arises at the very thought of this situation, such as: Who is responsible for this incident? What can be the causes? What are the effects and controls measures?



'Parents are Responsible':

In my opinion parents are the biggest offenders of this event. After the investigations it has been acknowledged that the gun came from the girl’s home. It was licensed pistol of her father. Firstly the parents are completely unaware of the lives of their children and then having a pistol at home within your child’s reach is extremely irresponsible act. Today the parents thinks that the only responsibility they have is to admit their sons and daughters into any school which they can afford, buy them the course books and then forget about them, their job is done. The parents have to come out of the state of their era that ‘Humare zamane mai esa nahi hota tha aur esa hota tha.” They must need to understand that this is hugely different age and time from theirs. A ten years old now is completely different from a ten years old then. We see kids today playing with the toy guns and parents feel nothing wrong in that. Even if sometimes I try to stop my 5 to 6 years old cousins from doing something I feel is wrong or irrelevant they say, “Goli Mardunga” – “I will shoot you.” And their parents laugh as if it’s something really funny

They should realize that a child’s mind is just like a sponge, he absorbs everything he watch, hears or feels. Even parents themselves try to avoid doing or watching such things in front of their offspring which they never want them to adopt or do, as we can never know what wrong message they might get. Parents should develop a friendly environment and relationship with their children, they should empathize with their child try to know about their views and perspectives on different things this will help you to know that their mentality is completely different from yours. Talk with your kids, indulge with them and recognize that in what activities your child is interested. Try to invite their friends at home in order to know what kind of friends they have and try to interact with the parents of their friends as well.

Don’t try to make them too antisocial or too social. If you will stop them from everything they want it won’t work well, they will find the other way to get it done. If you are going to rebuff any of their request don’t be rude try to be benevolent. Don’t impose your orders and opinions on them, try to listen to their viewpoints and make a middle way of any situation. If you will understand their mentality it will be easier for you to convince them on your opinion on something.



Not all the kids are same, if you will acquire rude and harsh behavior with them it will only make your child indignant. Few will listen to you but most of them will take such steps that will make you feel regret about your behavior later.


'Media is to be blamed':

Media plays some important role in this incident. Today we see that every other movie and drama contains irrelevant content such as suicides, love, rape, divorce, acyesis, betrayals, terror, guns, killings, hate, grudge and many. These programs broadcasted on television have powerful impact on children minds. And again it comes to parents who don’t actually care and who are completely unaware of their children life. The parents should keep an eye on the online activities of their children. It is advised that parents should ban their children from watching such type of irrelevant contents, not by imposing on them not to watch TV or movies but by developing their interest in watching more informative and knowledgeable programs. On the other hand media must have to understand this thing that by showing such programs they are exploiting and harming the mental and emotional level of the adolescents.



While discussing this suicide event with one of my friend I came to know that the story of Fatima and Navroz is somehow inspired the Bollywood movies, but our Pakistani dramas are not less than these movies. These movies and dramas not only affect the teenagers but the females of the Families are more or less also hit by these dramas.


Therefore Media should make programs that would raise awareness in young ones instead of showing them how great is to die for love. Nowadays if we ask a kid about who is Arfa Karim? Who is Nelson Mandela? Who is Stephen Hawking? They will stood blank in front of you and you will see the empty pale faces of them with no such charm in their eyes as if they are not so interested in these things or maybe no one really told them about this. But if you will ask them that who is Fawad Khan or what happened in that particular movie or drama they will tell you each and every minor details of it. Media should televise knowledgeable and erudite programs, not the films who portray fake life stories what they themselves wouldn’t pursue in real world. Media could make great change just by banning all the ‘shit’ shown in movies/dramas in the name of so called Love stories.





“Per us qaum-e-ghafil ki ghaflat wahi hai          tanazzul pe apne qina'at wahi hai

milay khaak mein par ra'oonat wahi hai             Hui subha aur khwab-e-rahat wahi hai



                                     Na afsos inhen apni zillat pe hai kuch

                                    Na rashk aur qaumon ki izzat pe hai kuch”
                                                                                                              - Mussaddase Hali.


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9 comments

  1. To be honest I'll be flat out. Just because one says one things doesn't mean that he will really do it. You stated the fact that kids are playing with toy guns isn't supposed to be so but to be honest I'd ask you if you wanted that same kid to play with a real gun? Times are changing madam. The generation is changing, the interests are evolving. Playing with a toy gun will not and I repeat WILL NOT brainwash a child to grow up using guns or becoming a terrorist or whatever! If you believe that we, THE GREATEST OF CREATIONS, are dumb enough to be controlled by a 1 hour movie or a 30 minute Drama serial then I seriously applaud you! Apparently according to your logic, right now I should be going around committing incest because I watch GOT right? I should become Hitler and commit another Holocaust because I just watched a movie about Hitler. Apparently that's where you are wrong madam! If you believe television can hypnotize a child into becoming a dimwit, then I think you are the one who's the victim right now of being brainwashed!

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  2. I appreciate you are acknowledging the issue, and I appreciate your perspective on the matter. I only have a few problems. One does not simply become suicidal just from watching films. Yes, their are some contents in movies that glorify violence, but that does not inspire children to take their own life. In most suicidal cases, it comes down to what the child is facing at home, socially, or academically. If we acknowledge the environment or pressures a child is living in than we are able to be conclusive on how to prevent suicides. Also, the title itself is a little overbearing, "Who is to be Blamed?" I think your goal is to prevent such suicides, so why could have you not just titled you article, "How To Help Prevent Suicides." That is not a legitimize argument against you, but more of a personal preference. Anyways, I truly appreciate you bringing light on to this subject. Thank you.

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  3. I couldn't read the whole article, but its pictures and the Part of Poetry shared in the end, did let me understand and realize that how brilliant this article could be. Surely, I will bookmark it and read it as soon as i get time.

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